Unexpected Hurt

Why is it so hard to get over it when we feel that our character, intentions, or heart have been attacked? Today I was hurt deeply and it was completely unexpected. A sucker punch waiting for me as I turned my face to look. I'm still a little in shock as it came from someone I haven't talked to in years and it was concerning someone I haven't talked to in many months. I'm amazed that I can so negatively affect someone else's life while living half way across the country from them and having no communication with them. I've been accused of not caring, being concerned only with myself, pursuing an inappropriate relationship (of which I've done no pursuing), attacking someone and not allowing them to move forward in their lives...isn't it crazy that I could manage all of that with absolutely no contact or communication with someone!? I must be a pretty powerful and terrible person if I'm capable of all that. I feel so betrayed...I don't even know what else to say...